Am I the only one who hates it when people are passive aggressive?
If you are not sure I will use an example.
Person A wants something from Person B or they just want to influence Person B’s behavior. They also do not want an aggressive confrontation. When a parent says to a child, “Do this now.” That is an aggressive directive.
The passive aggressive person thinks they can manipulate you by making “suggestions” or “comments” that in effect are to control your behavior.
So here is a good one, Person A says, ” You look tired, I will leave you alone so you can go to bed.”
Now generally speaking the first thing you could think is that person A really does just care for person B. This could also be true, but here is the kicker. Why not let Person B decide 1) when they are tired, 2) if they want to be left alone to go to bed?
Passive aggressive behavior is all over the place. The problem I have with it is this.
People should let other people make their own choices, decide what they need to decide, and then be responsible for their actions.
The more I think about it, I hear so many people complain about the “new” generations and how they are the “privileged”. Ok, but if we are going to talk in these generalizations, could it be that “they” think this way because they have been being passively aggressively manipulated all their lives?
I do not believe in beating children or physical abuse, but is it possible that instead of setting boundaries, teaching responsibility, and self direction- we as parents have aided in the creation of a generation used to getting so controlled and taken care of they do not know any other way?
There is a spectrum of child rearing that ranges from one extreme to the other. Extremes are never good no matter what they are about. I see more and more passive aggressive behavior in people.
Could there be a connection between permissive parenting, the rise of passive aggressive behavior patterns, and the idea of inherent privilege?
Food for thought.